The Uncle Ben logo is a real guy. He wasn’t named Ben. He was a waiter at s restaraunt some Ad Guy frequented, and they used his image for the brand without ever letting him see a penny of it. I don’t know whether the “uncle” part of his name is a slavery theowback like this person said, but that information wouldnae surprise me. Either way it’s an insanely fucked up story.
I disagree. Femininity could become toxic, but not in the same way as toxic masculinity. Toxic masculinity has extremes becoming harmful to the self and to others, toxic femininity has extremes becoming harmful only to the self. Basically allowing yourself to be tread on, looked over, or overly vulnerable.
Ps. This is still the fault of the patriarchy. Men were in power when they decided for these to be the gender norms.
So good to know that toxic feminity doesn’t exist and all the boys who have been beaten, tortured, humiliated, drowned, thrown into the fire by their mothers or raped by their female caretakers have only themselves to blame. Fucking patriarchs, amirite?
Toxoc feminity:
Mocking
Emotional Manipulation
Picking at emotional wounds
Weaponizing victimhood
Causing emotional confusion
Did the people who say toxic feminity doesn’t exist just never spend time in a high school?
There was literally a case not that long ago where a bunch of female high school students shot up the house of the girl they routinely bullied, wasn’t there? But yeah, noooo girls are never toxic. Never ever ever. It’s just teh evil mens~.
I’m guessing that the person who made the tweet had little or no experiences with toxic behaviors of women. I’ve had women constantly leave me out of stuff and call me the weakest link. They called me a whore and turned my friends against me. There were girls who threatened to beat me up and murder me because I sucked at sports in junior high. It got to the point where I was scared to go to school and my mom had to confront the principal about this.
Anyone who believes that women can’t display toxic behaviors is wrong. Just because you had good experiences with women doesn’t mean that others have.
I’ve met many, many toxic people, most of who were women so yeah either the person who made the tweet has little to no experience with toxic women, doesn’t care that there’s toxic women because she has an agenda, and/or she is a toxic woman. I wouldn’t be shocked if it was the two latter ones for sure.
Maybe it’s malicious to say, but to be perfectly honest if the author of that tweet doesn’t believe in “toxic femininity” then she probably was the source of it back in school, she certainly doesn’t have the type of personality that encourages me to think otherwise. It doesn’t take a victim of girl on girl bullying to say that some women can be psychotic bitches, but it certainly takes a certain level of self-consciousness guilt to do so.
Also, there’s literally a thread on this site where people make the observation that female bullies don’t stop being bullies after school. They, like many an abusive male teen, go into feels that best let them engage in their bullshit, like nursing.
Anyways, abusive mothers are the statistical majority, and downplaying their existence for feminism makes you a scum bag.
Are we not gonna talk about how pretty much every “feminine” trait is positive and how a bunch of the “masculine” ones are negative right out of the gate? Like she didn’t even start strong and the chart reeks of bias. Bad post Twitter lady.
I love how confused adults get with our humor and vine refrences cause like i just replied to my brother with ‘four female ghostbusters?? the feminist are taking over!!’ and he just screams ‘IM AN ADULT VIRGIN’ and my mom still has no idea what we’re talking about
Sometimes I fear we accidentally created a new language
why fear it when you can embrace it
We actually have…an updated version. You know how the idioms we have are said but never finished because it’s assumed that as long as the person you’re talking to speaks the same language they’ll understand the rest?
Ie. Jack of all trades master of none->better than a master of one
Great minds think alike->but fools rarely differ
Over time the second half gets lost because it’s been passed down orally so some idioms meanings have been warped but that’s a different conversation (ie. “Blood is thicker than water” is actually “the blood of the convent is thicker than the water of the womb”)
Vine are like that for us. You only need say the first half and every person under 30 knows the second half, no context needed. It’s cool as shit how the internet has done that for us. Vine sayings have become idioms in a sense…
In many ‘Spaghetti Western’ films, a broad sub-genre of American Western films that emerged during the 1960s in the midst of Sergio Leone’s film-making success, many of the vuglar roles Native Americans were hired to act in forced them into offensive portrayals with little attention paid to authenticity, with emphasis only placed on painting them as “simple savages.” As a result, many American filmmakers paid little attention to actually translating the indigenous languages for what they were saying on screen. As a result, many actors were able to say what they really felt.
Reel Injun, Documentary (2009)
it’s on netflix right now for anyone that wants to catch it
This is such a good documentary, guys. I try and convince all my students to watch it. It was made by Neil Diamond, a Cree filmmaker, and it’s an utterly fascinating look at portrayals of indigenous peoples in North American cinema.
reading a paper on quality of life among 45-to-70-year-olds with Down syndrome:
“Individuals expressed a desire to be allowed to go to bed when they wanted to.”
:(
Imagine.
I lived in a room and board that failed the burrito test. (”If you’re not allowed to get up in the middle of the night to microwave a burrito, you live in an institution.”) No one stopped me from going to bed, but they did tell me I had to have my lights out by 10, and that I had to be out of the house by 10 the next morning. When I complained to my outpatient program that I needed more help than I was getting, they threatened me with board and care, where my cell phone would be taken away and I would lose contact with the outside world. My case manager sounded so damn smug, like he had caught me out, when he said, “if you’re really as helpless as you say, then you need to be in a board and care.” Like my only options were struggling to do things I couldn’t do, or surrendering my life to an institution.
When I tried to talk about these things with other people, they always rationalized it away. (I told my dad once that my caseworker was reading my e-mails as I wrote them, demonstrating extreme disrespect for my privacy, and he said, “Well, she’s probably making sure you don’t use the internet to goof off.” I was 22 years old.)
People tend to mock the idea that telling an adult when to go to bed, when to eat, etc., is a human rights violation, even though they would find it outrageous and absurd if anyone came into their lives to do the same thing to them.
And this is what people seem to think when they tell disabled activists we’re just not disabled enough to understand that some people really do need to be locked up and deprived of all autonomy.
Once my friend Henry was accused of wearing wireless headphones by a substitute so she said for him to hand them over so he took them off and handed them to her. Then later on she asked him a question and he didn’t respond so she said it louder and he still didn’t respond. She asked why he was not responding and he said “I can’t understand you ma'am, you took my hearing aids.”
HOLY SHIT
one time we had a sub that was handing back papers and called my name. I asked if someone could grab it for me and she started mocking me for not even standing up. taunting me asking why I was not walking up to the front to get the paper myself.
my classmates went dead silent and after the sub’s laughter ended someone informed her that the wheelchair parked nearby belonged to me
I had a sub in English once, on presentation day. And everyone goes up and does their thing, and then its my turn. The whole time im stuttering and mixing up my words, having to stop and re-say my sentences. The rest of the class is used to this and claps. However, by the time its over, the teacher is 100% done.
Starts saying horrible thing about how im going to have to get over my ‘fear of public speaking’ and how she’s heard 8 year olds give better presentations (plus worse things but I don’t really member them). By then im in tears and on the brink of a panic attack, and then she starts telling me off for crying
The rest of the class is horrified. Then this boy stands up. He never been my friend and we never really got along, but he’d never bullied me. He told her in a pissed off, cold voice that in freshmen year I got a concussion and that I never really recovered from it, so all that was medical related and I couldn’t help it. Then he starts telling her off and the rest of the class joins him.
The teacher is mortified and tries to cover her ass, but the whole class walked out and that boy took me by the shoulders and we all walked to the principles office and told him what had happened. Lets just say she isn’t teaching anymore.
Also, turns out that boy had a sister like me, who couldn’t really speak. We’ve been best friends for 8 years and i’ll be his best woman at his wedding next year.
The moral is that Teachers, even subs, and adults shouldn’t scold kids before knowing the whole story, because shit like that can fuck up kids self-esteem for the rest of their life.
When I was thirteen, I had to have spinal surgery. When my doctor said I was allowed to attend school again, he said I had to use a wheelchair when on school grounds. My first day back at school, my special-ed teacher had put up a banner in her classroom that read, “There is no elevator to success. You must take the stairs.” I asked what that meant regarding my wheelchair, and she gave me detention for “disrespecting her authority”. The next week she gave us a homework assignment to design a poster that could potentially be used as a Public Service Advertisement. On the due-date, I handed this in.
My special-ed teacher was fucking OUTRAGED. She wanted me expelled for ridiculing her authority in front of the other students. The principal proclaimed my work to be “a masterpiece of satirical genius” and vetoed the special-ed teacher’s attempt to expel me.
Reblogging this post yet again, this time for the masterpiece of satirical genius. Hope the teacher got in trouble.
this calligraphy channel is amazing because their cats constantly try to interfere, like these cats are just laser focused on annihilating every project the person tries to do
